Gwyneth Paltrowis sharing her tips and tricks for raising teenagers.While speaking with PEOPLE for this week’s cover story, the Goop founder, 51, discussed her relationship with her two kids – son Moses, 17, and daughter Apple, 19 — and revealed her tips for raising teenagers.“I have been so lucky with my teens,” Paltrow tells PEOPLE. “We had, probably when Apple, I would say, was about 13, we had a year where I was like, ‘Oh wow, okay,’ but actually my kids have been, I kind of didn’t have the horrible teen thing, I think because I’ve always been very, very honest with my kids and I think I’ve always empowered them with a little bit more freedom and responsibility than they thought they were ready for.““They’ve treated it with reverence. I’ve always said, ‘I don’t need to give you a curfew unless you give me a reason to give you a curfew,’ kind of thing. They’re responsible and they’ve never done anything too crazy.“Never miss a story — sign up forPEOPLE’s free daily newsletterto stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from juicy celebrity news to compelling human interest stories.Gwyneth Paltrow for Goop.Coliena Rentmeester / Trunk Archive"I really loved having teenagers,” Paltrow affirms. “I mean, Apple’s in her last year of her teenage years now, which is so crazy to me that she’ll be 20 on her next birthday. I don’t quite know how that happened.“Paltrow shares her two kids with ex-husbandChris Martin. She is also stepmom to her husbandBrad Falchuk’stwo kids, Isabella and Brody.In August, the actress held an Instagram Q&A andresponded to a fan’s question about becoming a stepmom to her husband’s kids. “I did find it really hard at first,” she admitted at the time.“You know,there’s no book on this; nobody tells us what to do. And in fact, all of the existing media around what a stepmother is casts us in this evil, villainous light,” she continued, “So it’s kind of like trying to avoid land mines. And then you’re going into a family with dynamics. And there’s all kinds of fear around loss and what does this person mean?“Gwyneth Paltrow for PEOPLE.Coliena Rentmeester / Trunk ArchivePaltrow added, “But for myself, the minute I decided, and fully embodied the idea that my step kids were my kids and I love them just as much and I gave them the same rules and boundaries, and just kind of whole-heartedly went for it, then the easier the whole thing got. And now it’s pretty great.“In a recent interview withBustle, the mom of twoopened up about her divorce with Martin, saying that she complied a “data collection” of other people whose parents had gone through divorces to determine how she wanted to navigate her own divorce from the Coldplay singer, 46.“My kids are great. They’re grounded and grateful and funny,” Paltrow said of her two kids. “But [Chris Martin] and I both really did not want to have them experience the divorce as a trauma.““We knew it would be hard, of course, but we didn’t want them to ever feel in the middle, or that one of us was slagging off the other one. At that time, I did a very me thing, which was when I knew I wanted to get a divorce, I did this data collection of talking to adults who had been products of a broken home.““Every single one of them said, ‘I didn’t care that my parents got divorced. That wasn’t it. But the fact that they wouldn’t speak to each other, that they couldn’t both sit at a dinner table for my birthday…’ They said that was the most awful thing,” Paltrow recalled.“You could see they held it with so much hurt and anger. I was like, ‘That’s what I’m never going to do.’ And we really didn’t.“For more on Gwyneth Paltrow, pick up the latest issue of PEOPLE, on newsstands Friday, or subscribehere.
Gwyneth Paltrowis sharing her tips and tricks for raising teenagers.
While speaking with PEOPLE for this week’s cover story, the Goop founder, 51, discussed her relationship with her two kids – son Moses, 17, and daughter Apple, 19 — and revealed her tips for raising teenagers.
“I have been so lucky with my teens,” Paltrow tells PEOPLE. “We had, probably when Apple, I would say, was about 13, we had a year where I was like, ‘Oh wow, okay,’ but actually my kids have been, I kind of didn’t have the horrible teen thing, I think because I’ve always been very, very honest with my kids and I think I’ve always empowered them with a little bit more freedom and responsibility than they thought they were ready for.”
“They’ve treated it with reverence. I’ve always said, ‘I don’t need to give you a curfew unless you give me a reason to give you a curfew,’ kind of thing. They’re responsible and they’ve never done anything too crazy.”
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Gwyneth Paltrow for Goop.Coliena Rentmeester / Trunk Archive
Coliena Rentmeester / Trunk Archive
“I really loved having teenagers,” Paltrow affirms. “I mean, Apple’s in her last year of her teenage years now, which is so crazy to me that she’ll be 20 on her next birthday. I don’t quite know how that happened.”
Paltrow shares her two kids with ex-husbandChris Martin. She is also stepmom to her husbandBrad Falchuk’stwo kids, Isabella and Brody.
In August, the actress held an Instagram Q&A andresponded to a fan’s question about becoming a stepmom to her husband’s kids. “I did find it really hard at first,” she admitted at the time.
“You know,there’s no book on this; nobody tells us what to do. And in fact, all of the existing media around what a stepmother is casts us in this evil, villainous light,” she continued, “So it’s kind of like trying to avoid land mines. And then you’re going into a family with dynamics. And there’s all kinds of fear around loss and what does this person mean?”
Gwyneth Paltrow for PEOPLE.Coliena Rentmeester / Trunk Archive
Paltrow added, “But for myself, the minute I decided, and fully embodied the idea that my step kids were my kids and I love them just as much and I gave them the same rules and boundaries, and just kind of whole-heartedly went for it, then the easier the whole thing got. And now it’s pretty great.”
In a recent interview withBustle, the mom of twoopened up about her divorce with Martin, saying that she complied a “data collection” of other people whose parents had gone through divorces to determine how she wanted to navigate her own divorce from the Coldplay singer, 46.
“My kids are great. They’re grounded and grateful and funny,” Paltrow said of her two kids. “But [Chris Martin] and I both really did not want to have them experience the divorce as a trauma.”
“We knew it would be hard, of course, but we didn’t want them to ever feel in the middle, or that one of us was slagging off the other one. At that time, I did a very me thing, which was when I knew I wanted to get a divorce, I did this data collection of talking to adults who had been products of a broken home.”
“Every single one of them said, ‘I didn’t care that my parents got divorced. That wasn’t it. But the fact that they wouldn’t speak to each other, that they couldn’t both sit at a dinner table for my birthday…’ They said that was the most awful thing,” Paltrow recalled.
“You could see they held it with so much hurt and anger. I was like, ‘That’s what I’m never going to do.’ And we really didn’t.”
For more on Gwyneth Paltrow, pick up the latest issue of PEOPLE, on newsstands Friday, or subscribehere.
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